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Some of you may know that I was scheduled to sign at the Hard Rock in Vegas this week, alongside some of the hottest girls in hollywood.  But, my flight got snowed in - along with everyone elses!  I heard 4800 flights got cancelled this week across the country!   So don't fret if you're somehow not able to make it to afterparty with Cardi B and me this Saturday night in Vegas.  Probably nobody can!   BUT HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS!
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By Cheo Somischack





I couldn't take the discussions with my girlfriends anymore. I couldn't take talking about being angry, and getting bitter about knowing there was no longer a man in our lives and how could they treat women like this?  Oh the cheating scandals or the lack of attention and just better yet, some of them had men that just downright couldn't step up to be a man.  But then in a few minutes... us girls laughed about the bitch session and said “let's go find some men!”  I too followed in the uproar and laughter, but secretly deep down, I was tremendously heartbroken and I didn't know how to carry myself on a day to day basis without questioning what went wrong.  I tend to blame myself you know.  But as the hours, days and weeks went by it appeared that my past relationships were just like a Kenny Chesney song and it was just “Better as a memory”.  Awake for hours on a sleepless night, I decided to write a letter to my ex, but really... it was to every woman/ man out there going through a failed relationship or a failed marriage and I want you to know it is okay to have 2nd or 3rd or 4th chances in love again.... You just have to want it.


Dear ex-boyfriend,


I wanted to thank you for breaking up with me.  YES... I said that right. THANK YOU.  See...when you broke up with me, you didn't realize that you actually did me a favor. You gave me a PURPOSE back in my life. You gave me a need, a desire, a journey to want to try this all over again and understand better how love works, let me get that correct... how true love works.  I made a promise to myself on that night, that I will accept all that is laid out before me and learn to accept me again. I am not hurt, I am not wounded and I am not scared.  As I was lying down on the floor with tears rolling down my eyes, blaming myself for all that has come before me, you crushed a little girls dream that moment.  I dreamt of our future on numerous occasions, and dreamt of our past and how we laughed at silly jokes. Yet there was still something missing. Something so important and I can't believe I had missed it for all those years when we were together. So when the tears dried up and I stood up, I realized I wanted a partner that made me feel EQUAL.  Let me explain this to you because it is very simple, I just wanted a partner that cared for me just as much as I cared for him. My EQUAL.  


In this relationship, I gave up the hope of having a husband one day because I knew you did not want to get married again.  I was fine with that, because I too, had failed at a marriage and signing the “contract” with a man again frightened the crap out of me for fear of failing.  Let's go back and define “marriage”.  To me, that means a committed couple that loves unconditionally and having an equal partnership. It means NEVER giving up on each other. You were supposed to be a guard to my heart, so how you could you let it break?  How did I get to a point in my life that I would let go of one of my dreams for you?  I look back and think it was because I really did LOVE you. I held you in such high respect that I was ok with letting go of my dreams to get married.  I knew with you I was never going to get married again... Yet it still bothered me deep down inside because I believe that somewhere out there, I will find a human being that will travel with me through this journey and continue to work and care for the belief that unconditional love still exists, and I discovered it wasn't with you.


I wish you the best. I hope that you find a companion that will take you in life where I could not take you.  I believe in your path, your goals and better yet... I still believe in you.  There will be no more “us” and I have learned to be ok with that.  A genuine smile from both of us is worth more than a thousand words, so remember that, when you see me and my smile.  It was lost, and you did help me find it.... We needed to let go to have both of us to remember how to love again.


Find me outside, find me at the beach, find me traveling... wherever you go... search for me because I will be out there. Living my life, finding myself and continuing on my path of discovery because I won't ever, give up on finding True Love.


Best of Luck to each of us,
Your ex-girlfriend




 

By Maycee Nordine

 
Dating apps are the new wave technology that let us hide behind our screens while claiming to “meet new people” every 30 seconds. That makes it sound a little bad, but who among us hasn't taken the opportunity to look at all the attractive (and sometimes unattractive) people in our area? Dating apps are a relatively new thing that at least one of your friends has tried. Apps like Tinder, Match, Coffee Meets Bagel, and OkCupid are so easy to use its almost a crime not to. For all the single people out there, it is easy to find hope on these apps. But, what do these apps really do for us? If you're looking for love, I'm sorry to say that you may be in the wrong place. Love is pretty hard to find on dating apps, although not impossible. But, if you want hookups, someone to talk to, friends, or even friends with benefits you're in the right place. And, there's no shame in looking for a super hot one-night stand. Just be up front about it.


Once you start looking at all the people in your area, you get to pick and chose who you think is attractive. Perusing through people in your area can be kind of fun. That is, until you come across someone you know (always super awkward). You look at their pictures, and if you're undecided then you take a quick look at their profile for another ten seconds and BAM you've made a decision. You either swipe right or left, you click like or you don't. Now, if they are super hot you want to send them a message. However, you don't want to seem like you are super desperate loser. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with messaging him first, ladies. You never know what will happen if you don't try, right? The key to talking to a guy online is to not make it weird. We don't want him to run for the hills after five minutes. Try to ask questions to find out a little about him, but don't make it super obvious. There's nothing worse than someone quizzing you on who you are, what you like to do, where you work, where you are from, etc. No one wants to share their whole life story through text. So, don't start with super hard questions, and be sneaky about it. Try to find out everything you want to know WITHOUT seeming like a stalker.


LADIES, So now ya'll are carrying on a conversation and you're starting to like this guy. Yay! And then the doomsday question comes: When do you want to meet? Depending on how outgoing you are might determine the amount of anxiety this question brings. If you decide you want to meet him make sure you are being safe. Meet at a public place the first time. And if his idea of a first date is “Netflix and chill” you better just keep on movin' girl. Go to a bar or restaurant and see if you can vibe with him. But, be up front. If you are looking for a relationship or a second date you should let him know. If you are looking for a one-nighter, make that clear as well. Then just see where the conversation takes you. Don't be afraid to have fun and get out there. That's the whole point of it! Be flirty and sexy. Be mysterious. Be whatever you want. If its time you meet someone new take a chance. Download all the dating apps you want and get to swiping!